Every parent wants to raise children that go on to be happy and successful. As a parent, there is a lot you can teach your child that will help them to thrive throughout their life.
Here’s the key, start early.
Once negative beliefs and poor habits are established, they’re tough to extinguish. For example, anyone that’s tried to lose weight (like me) knows how tough it can be to just change your eating habits.
Consider the things that have helped you to be successful. Not only can you learn from those situations yourself, but you can also use those stories for the benefit of your children! Also, think about the things that have prevented you from being more successful.
Learning from your past successes and mistakes is invaluable. The lessons you learn can be taught to your children.
Use these strategies to help your children learn how to succeed:
- Teach your child to be a finisher. Many adults would be much more successful if they could just finish what they start. Too many people put in a lot of time and effort, only to quit before the job is complete or the goal is attained. This is nothing more than a bad habit. Encourage your child to finish out the soccer season, even if she/he wants to quit. Chores and homework are great opportunities to learn how to finish a task.
- Teach your child to do what needs to be done and to do it in a timely manner. This is the opposite of procrastination. For example, begin studying for a test plenty of time before the test is given. It means doing homework before playing video games. Ask your child what they need to do and then encourage them to do that task. Over time, they will begin to do this on their own without prompting.
- Teach your child to be okay with failure. Most children are overly sensitive about being judged by their peers. Children are often afraid to try anything unless they feel certain they’ll experience success. Teach your child that failure is okay and natural. Reward your child for every effort, especially when trying something new.
- Keep your child physically active. Active children sleep better, are healthier, and even do better at math. Successful people are more likely to be healthy and physically active. Tell your child to turn off the TV and go outside to play.
- Show your child unconditional love. A loved child is a braver child. Children that are confident that their parents love them are more likely to take risks. Who doesn’t need more confidence? Ensure that your child is 100% confident in your love for them.
- Teach your child to persevere. This might be the greatest characteristic you can instill in your child. We all know someone that is marginally intelligent, skilled, and talented, yet always seems to succeed. At the end of the day, those that persevere are successful far more often than not.
- Model the desired behavior. This last tip is critical. Your child is always watching you for clues of what to believe and how to act. You can’t act one way and expect your child to act another, regardless of your words. Show your child how to be successful by being successful yourself. Exhibit the traits discussed earlier.
Teach your children the important lessons they won’t learn in school. Success is little more than a consistently followed set of behaviors and attitudes that are effective in our society.
Avoid forcing your child to figure out for themselves how to succeed in the world. Share your wisdom with them, and ensure they know how much you love them. Do your best to be a good example of how a successful person faces the world.
We are rooting for you!
Avery & Brian